Category Archives: Friendship

How easy trust is broken

As I sit at my desk, I am amazed at the constant reminder that trust takes a long time to build. It is far easier to demolish trust. The relationships we have at home can be destroyed with one harsh spoken word said in a fit of anger or revenge. One mean act can do more damage than a year of constructive building up of character. I wish this wasn’t true. Scripture says this so well in James 3.

What is sad is the fact that some of these destructive actions are outside of our control. We didn’t have anything to do with the actions, others did.

The tendency then is to react and seek for revenge. As a Christian, I know that I should not harbor hard feelings or seek to get even. Yet, those feelings exist. How do we overcome?

Yesterday, my pastor, Jason Matters, shared some great wisdom. Our hope, our center of faith is found in the Cross of Jesus. It is in that cross that we need to boast, rest, and hide in. I think this is the beginning of how to deal with broken trust and perhaps find a way to restore trust, if that is even possible.

A Friend Resigns His Job

In July of 2006, I started a job at Nazarene Headquarters (now Global Ministry Center) in the Kansas City area. My job was to be a help desk technician for the Church of the Nazarene’s Global Ministry Center. I left the active Senior Pastorate for a number of reasons, but the main reason I came to KC was to work under Mike Fetting, someone with whom I went to college and I had gotten reacquainted through the Association of Nazarene Technologists (AONT). Mike had and still has some great and grand dreams of how technology can enhance the ministry of the Church. This is a dream I readily accept and love. It resonates with me all the way to the core.

A very sad yet happy day occurred on Monday. Mike resigned as the IT Director for the General Church of the Nazarene. Sad in that the team that has worked together for his 9 years is starting to go its separate ways. There are a lot of reasons, but I don’t want to go into why and what is happening in this post.

Mike has become a great friend over the last 7 years of my life. I have helped Mike with a transition into Pastoral Ministry. We have worked together to do some great ministry in the last couple of years. It has been a joy to see how God has developed a great man of God who is humble and willing to serve God in whatever way God wants.

The last paragraph is why I am happy for Mike. Though I hate the idea that he is no longer the IT Director, he is now capable of pursuing more of the dream of bringing the church and technology together. Exciting days are ahead of Mike and his family. His church, Holiness Church of the Nazarene in Stillwell, Kansas, is a new plant and is making an impact on the lives of many people. His new company will be able to help others see how God can and does use technology to do great things in the Kingdom.

My prayer in this time of transition for not only Mike, but also for the rest of the IT team left at the GMC, is that God will be glorified in all that we do, and that we stay close to the Lord who is the reason for all we do.

God, use Mike, in great ways in the days ahead!