How easy trust is broken

As I sit at my desk, I am amazed at the constant reminder that trust takes a long time to build. It is far easier to demolish trust. The relationships we have at home can be destroyed with one harsh spoken word said in a fit of anger or revenge. One mean act can do more damage than a year of constructive building up of character. I wish this wasn’t true. Scripture says this so well in James 3.

What is sad is the fact that some of these destructive actions are outside of our control. We didn’t have anything to do with the actions, others did.

The tendency then is to react and seek for revenge. As a Christian, I know that I should not harbor hard feelings or seek to get even. Yet, those feelings exist. How do we overcome?

Yesterday, my pastor, Jason Matters, shared some great wisdom. Our hope, our center of faith is found in the Cross of Jesus. It is in that cross that we need to boast, rest, and hide in. I think this is the beginning of how to deal with broken trust and perhaps find a way to restore trust, if that is even possible.

Questions on Communication

What makes good communication good? What does the bible teach us about communicating well? Why don’t we communicate clearly? What needs to happen for our communication to get better and be more Christ-like?

There is the spiritual practice of holy conversation that needs to be learned, but how and what does it look like?

I will be coming back to this post and reflecting on these questions further.

A Friend Resigns His Job

In July of 2006, I started a job at Nazarene Headquarters (now Global Ministry Center) in the Kansas City area. My job was to be a help desk technician for the Church of the Nazarene’s Global Ministry Center. I left the active Senior Pastorate for a number of reasons, but the main reason I came to KC was to work under Mike Fetting, someone with whom I went to college and I had gotten reacquainted through the Association of Nazarene Technologists (AONT). Mike had and still has some great and grand dreams of how technology can enhance the ministry of the Church. This is a dream I readily accept and love. It resonates with me all the way to the core.

A very sad yet happy day occurred on Monday. Mike resigned as the IT Director for the General Church of the Nazarene. Sad in that the team that has worked together for his 9 years is starting to go its separate ways. There are a lot of reasons, but I don’t want to go into why and what is happening in this post.

Mike has become a great friend over the last 7 years of my life. I have helped Mike with a transition into Pastoral Ministry. We have worked together to do some great ministry in the last couple of years. It has been a joy to see how God has developed a great man of God who is humble and willing to serve God in whatever way God wants.

The last paragraph is why I am happy for Mike. Though I hate the idea that he is no longer the IT Director, he is now capable of pursuing more of the dream of bringing the church and technology together. Exciting days are ahead of Mike and his family. His church, Holiness Church of the Nazarene in Stillwell, Kansas, is a new plant and is making an impact on the lives of many people. His new company will be able to help others see how God can and does use technology to do great things in the Kingdom.

My prayer in this time of transition for not only Mike, but also for the rest of the IT team left at the GMC, is that God will be glorified in all that we do, and that we stay close to the Lord who is the reason for all we do.

God, use Mike, in great ways in the days ahead!

New laptop thoughts

I now have a new laptop. The laptop is a HP ProBook 4540s w/ a 2.5 GHz 3rd generation I5 processor, 8 GBs of RAM, Dedicated Radeon Video card w/ 1GB RAM, 750 GB HD and came with both Windows 7 Pro and Windows 8 Pro (Windows 7 Pro pre-installed) I chose to install Windows 8 since I use it at work and have to support it. I really don’t mind Windows 8. It just takes time to get used to it.

The only really bad thing in the process of getting a new computer is the transfer of data from the old machine to the new one. Yes, I know there is a nice program called, Windows Easy Transfer Wizard that makes the process less painful, but you still have to install the software on the new machine that you have on the old one. You also have to decide if you are truly using the programs on the old machine or not. There is also the pain of getting rid of the “bloatware” that often comes with the computer. I was spared this last item since I had to install the Windows 8 OS and then had the options of what “extra” software to install. Very nice, HP.

I have spent the last 3 days setting up the machine and tweaking things. I’ve got most of the main work done. Now to start using it on a daily bases. I should finalize the setup in another week or so. Then I get the task of making one last back up of the old laptop and then rebuilding it from scratch. The old machine is a Dell Latitude E5400. It was okay, but not really what I wanted in a machine. It should be fine for my 14 year old son. It has Windows 7 Ultimate on it since I got a license for it 5 years ago when it first came out.

I will share more posts about my process and thoughts of my new machine in the following days. I’ll even give my reviews on Microsoft Office 2013. There are some nice features and some really dumb things that they put into the programs.